Bone scans and blue skies

On Wednesday, my sister had her first appointment with her oncologist. It was a two hour appointment and took place in the early morning. By 8:00 PM, my brother and I both had stomachs that were in knots after a long day of waiting and worrying. Why hadn't she called us? How bad is it? It turns out that she and her husband went to lunch with the oncologist (who is a friend of a friend), picked up their son from school and then went to a baseball game. That's life with cancer, I guess. Except the lunch with the oncologist part, I'm sure that's a bit unusual. Anyway, she quite forgot about us and was just doing her life.

To the news then: we can breath what I think of as a half sigh of relief because the tests show that the cancer hasn't spread to her bones or liver. Only a half sigh because her cancer is invasive and she will have to have 4 1/2 months of intravenous and oral chemotherapy plus radiation, so it's going to be a hard road for her, but we are relieved that it isn't worse.

My hope for a clear bone scan came true. My greater wish for my sister's body to be free of cancer hovers on the horizon. I dream of blue skies and that Irving Berlin song is in my head all the time. Maybe her life will never be exactly "normal" again. But things will get easier, surely. What next, big sky?


The Goldfish said...

Very good news. :-)

michelle said...

Oh, that is good news. I know things are still very hard, but honestly, it would have been much, much worse if it had spread. A patch of blue sky, maybe? I see why you are thinking about that song.

Do take care.

seahorse said...

Good news indeed. You must have been through every feeling under the sun in recent weeks.

Katrin said...

Thank goodness.

Donimo said...

Thanks, everyone. I realize now that I did breathe a full sigh of relief. It would have been really bad if the cancer had spread. Perspective is a bit difficult right now.

cusp said...

You can breathe out now. Thnak God for some small mercies.

Wish you all strength in the coming days

Take care {{{ * }}}}

Author said...

It's not easy knowing that someone you love has cancer. There are all the known fears and all the unknown fears to contend with.

I'm guessing from what you said she has wonderful support from you and the rest of the family - the strength this will give her cannot be underestimated.

She might want to think about joining a support group. A lot of people shy away from this - they think it will be depressing to see others with the same disease.

However, support groups usually offer a wealth of information on the best treatments available, the best questions to ask, the best oncologists and surgeons to see - and of course they offer invaluable support too. Often the patient has fears they feel they cannot share with other members of their family lest they should worry them. A support group will offer an outlet for such discussion without repercussions.Thee are good online groups too - I am the UK co-moderator of an online chondrosarcoma support group.

I hope your sister does well with her treatment - it won't be easy.

Best wishes from Author - a cancer survivor too - I'm still a NERD (no evidence of recurring disease) from the Chondrosarcoma I had: a rare form of primary bone cancer

Donimo said...

Cusp: I don't know who/what exactly to thank for the small mercies, but I'll take them! Thanks for your thoughts.

Author: NERD, eh? I have never heard it used that way. I like it. It means a lot to me to hear from a cancer survivor.

I am a big fan of getting support from those who experience something similar and I will gentle urge my sister to do the same. She's still very much in the deer-in-the-headlights stage and is just doing the appointments and procedures that are scheduled for her. I want to encourage her to see a naturopath for some nutritional support, but she doesn't seem quite ready to take on anything more. Obviously, everyone choses their own path, but I do want to let her know she might have some additional options. Gently forward...

Diane J Standiford said...

Lunching w/oncologist--good Karma,

Southpawto said...

Hey Donimo,

Your friend in Toronto here. I wanted to say that is good news for your sister.
May strength and peace come to your family.


hobbz said...

donimo, I'm glad things worked out as they did! What I've seen of your blog is truly inspiring and I've added a link to your blog on my own fibromyalgia blog...let me know if that's not ok and I will take it down....my blog is


thanks hobbz

Donimo said...

Diane: no kidding, eh? I don't think I've ever broken down that wall with a specialist of mine. My sister has a lot of confidence in this doc, so I am happy about that. Glad that he treats her like a real person.

Southpawto: hey! Glad to see you around. Thank you for your kind thoughts.

Hobbz: I actually already had your blog bookmarked and meant to check it out before I left for holiday, but my online time has been short lately. Thanks so much for the link and I'll do the same for you this week. Thanks for the praise, I'll try to let that sink in.

The Elite Body said...

I hope your sister will get full benefit from this treatment and will get well soon.